How to Have a Positive Relationship with Your Children

by | Dec 23, 2019 | Relationships

A father and son are lying on the floor, reading a colorful book together. The father, wearing a blue t-shirt, looks on attentively while the boy, dressed in a green shirt, engages excitedly with the book. This simple moment underscores the importance of building a positive relationship with your children. In the background, shelves display vibrant items and books.

The topic of parent-children relationship is always a tricky one. Each family has different cultures, and it isn’t always rainbows and cupcakes. But no matter what, it is essential to build a strong relationship between parents and children. It sounds easy in writing, but in a real sense, it isn’t. I have two children, and I try as much as possible to be involved in their lives. Just like any parent out there, balancing the work-life and family life can sometimes be challenging, with one taking the hit- Mostly the family life.

To ensure you do not compromise your relationship with your children, here are some strategies to help strengthen your relationship.

Find and spend quality time with them.

It is no secret that children and adolescents will seek attention in whatever way. It might be positively or negatively. When they go the negative way, it’s a sign they need a stronger association with you. So, it is essential to find the time to spend with your kids and be consistent in their life. Go swimming, play non-competitive games, cook, talk and so on. In addition to finding the time, leave the work behind. When you are with your children, avoid work interruptions. This is how you get quality time.

Focus and build on the positives.

There is something to be learned every day, and there is no guarantee that tomorrow’s lesson will be easy. Children, therefore, need encouragement and acknowledgment. Praise their efforts, even the smallest. This allows them to push on with a positive attitude helping them face life’s challenges. Focus more on the positives to give them new energy to continue with the trend as they grow older. They are doing so build not only a relationship but also a stronger character.

Listen keenly

Children and adolescents have a lot to say. If they are excited about something, they keep talking enthusiastically. As a parent, it’s your job to listen keenly and with intention. Otherwise, you may close the door, and they will never share anything with you. While listening, do not judge. To them, whatever they say is essential. Additionally, engage them to allow them to talk to you. Ask more about their stories to keep the conversation going.

Allow them to learn respect from you.

Children are observant and try to imitate what they see. Interact with people with respect so that they, too, can learn to treat you, as parents, and others with the same respect.

In conclusion, the 21st century has lots of things preventing parent-child interactions. Do not let your work be one of them. Spend quality time, positive praise behavior, and listen to your kids to be part of their lives.