Considering the mayhem that the current COVID-19 crisis has brought about in society, experiencing the fear of trying something new and failing is natural. Along with the global pandemic, several other issues such as police brutality protests over black people’s rights, and increasing rates of femicide have grappled all of us in such a way that we are finding it difficult to pave a way out to reach the other end of the tunnel.
Amongst the most invaluable lessons that life has ever taught me, one of them avers that you can never reduce the number of mistakes to zero or try to administer things that are not under your control. Instead, what you can do is, pull up your guards to safeguard yourself against the probable mistakes and strive to get better at decision making. To help you with this, in the following section, I will be laying down a few ways that will push you to overcome your persistent fears of committing an inexplicable mistake.
- Don’t feed on your fears.
As with other things, fear is sticking around when you shower it with a lot of attention. Realize that to err is human; thus, unadulterated fearlessness that our culture glorifies should be ignored. Bear in mind that you fear something exists because it wants to make you realize that you are in a situation whose innate nature is challenging, and there cannot be any dichotomy about it. Thus, ditch the overhyped phrase “you shouldn’t be fearful” and embrace your natural emotions and instincts.
Have fear in the heart, but do not feed on or be ashamed of them like a jinx. People who lead from the front and are bold and visionary, too, are scared of repercussions. If you are inclined to shield yourself even before anything happens, channel it to be more courageous.
- Think about the things that matter
When you are mind is caught up in the vicious cycle of predicting the potential scenarios and their results, you will most likely find yourself stuck in a very narrow line of thought. The more you validate your fears, the higher their chances of turning out to be true. Nonetheless, if you let your mind emphasize the bigger picture, you can find leads that will help you efficaciously get over the fears.
A rule of the thumb here is, if you are afraid of something, try it, even if you know you will not stand true your expectations. Living through your fear means being acquainted with the worst-case scenario, and once that distressing veil of anticipation is pulled off, the intensity of the paranoia diminishes.
- Give yourself enough time and space.
If your mind is not letting you step beyond that realm of fear, it can get incredibly hard to redirect your attention to something productive or peaceful. Most people respond to fear by being obsessively compulsive; they want to take charge and command the situations at all times. Even though being hyperactive can open doors to fruitfulness during the initial days, it will prove immensely agonizing in the longer run. Thereby, when you are exposed to uncontrollable fear, take a step back and give yourself enough time to dissect the possibilities in front of you and creatively design solutions for them.